take the fall

Thesis Statement: Falling in Love and falling for love may be the same on the surface but have tragic differences.

Amazing is the superfluous human language. Horrifying how a change in a single word can give a whole new meaning to a three-word-phrase. The worst part is, increasingly more and more people unknowingly fall into this mistake—not only in words but in the actions they take each day. Falling in love and falling for love, though seemingly similar on the surface, are tragically way different.

Falling in love means defying all reason, in claim that love is something beyond all rational thinking ever known to man. Meanwhile, falling for love means loving for reasons bound not to be understood by logic.

Falling in love is neither something you need nor want. You are not supposed to desire finding it. It is about patiently waiting while anticipating it in the calmest possible manner. You trust that it will certainly come along one day in some form that is yet unknown. It is about waiting for the asked mystery to divulge itself unto you.

Falling for love, on the other hand is something you do not need but badly want. You lustfully engorge into the idea of seeking it soon; aggressively anticipating its coming; and worse—pushing love to hurry its way. This comes when you have decided that you are sick and tired of waiting; when you have given up on the idea of hope and patience. You have come to admit that desperation has gotten the better of you. It is a quest to find something that you yourself made up; seeking something or someone that would fit the standards you have set in mind.

Falling for love falls not for someone who holds all dreams and hopes of forever and eternity; instead it falls hard in the sweet idea of falling in love. On the contrary, really falling in love falls lavishly onto the absolute surrender of something that may come in different forms.

Falling in love is a mystery—you are not supposed to think about it, neither are you expected to understand it—you just live it. Falling for love however, is a great question pondering upon your forehead. It is something that you should both solve and resolve before it consumes you.
Despite all differences though, these two are often mistaken. Why? It is because of one distinct common point that each person undeniably wish to hold. Both falling in love and falling for love provide happiness. Although the levels of happiness may differ (such that falling for love gives temporal bliss as opposed to falling in love’s real and lasting contentment), by the end of the day everything still boils down to one thing: everyone needs comfort after the long and tiring day called life. No one, I suppose, would want to be left alone.